People who deal with shame

Click Here for an interesting article on people who deal with shame.  I am listing a few of the authors takeaways below:

  • I want to combat shame by pointing people to the love of Christ, but just as importantly I want to embody that love. My actions and attitudes communicate. Jesus’ words were important but his actions were too.
  • I don’t want to be so eager to identify sin in others that I miss the more immediate need of compassion and love. Locating sin and speculating about poor motives really is a lot easier than being patient, kind, and compassionate. I want to give others what they need in the moment, not what is easy for me.
  • I don’t want the people in my life to feel like an interruption. May God have mercy on me, because I think sometimes they do.
  • I don’t want people with problems to think I’m running from them, but sometimes in my fear I do.
  • I can be honest about my limitations of time and wisdom without letting them think they are too needy to be helped or cared for. To do that I need to confess my own pride and self-reliance.

If you want to know how to love the shamed more wisely, the first step is to look around for those “sneaking up on you” just hoping to steal a touch and give it to them. Notice them. Make time for them. Invite them to give voice to their suffering. Embody and point them to the love of Christ.

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2 Responses to People who deal with shame

  1. jeannie says:

    thank you for the reminder, though I am probably more often the needy one than the one who can point someone in the right direction

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